Daddy Dazed

A new baby can put a huge strain on any relationship. There’s the stress of doing lots of things for the first time, the lack of sleep, not to mention your partner’s haywire hormone levels changing. And while you’re at it you can put that away and forget about sex for a while too. So here is some advice for all new dads out there.

Family life
You went into hospital a couple and have come home a family. There’s a third person in your relationship now, and that can be hard to get used to. You’re going to have to get used to not being her number one priority. Make sure you tell her you understand.
Help, I’m being shut out!
While there’s plenty for you to do with your baby, in the first few weeks, she’s going to be the main one looking after it. She’s not trying to exclude you, she’s just doing what needs to be done. Look at it another way – if she’s looking after the baby, who’s looking after her? Yes, you.
Give her some time
Do you have to go to every home AND away game? Or play golf on Saturday AND Sunday. Or go to the pub every night after work for a few before coming home? Skip a few invitations and be at home to give her some time to do something other than look after Baby – whether that’s going out, having a bath or just sleeping. It’s OK, the pub’s not going anywhere. It’ll still be there next time.
Sex
She’s just had a baby. And you’re so tired you can barely stand. Let’s leave that for a while, shall we? Seriously, she won’t be having sex for six weeks – at least and quite possible much much longer. But going off sex doesn’t mean she has fallen out of love with you, but the mixture of tiredness, hormonal changes in her body after the birth and constant caring for a baby often cause women to lose their sex drive. Tell her you love her. And sometimes give her a cuddle that doesn’t have to lead to something more.
Say yes to help
It’ll help you both if you accept any and all offers of assistance in the first few weeks. You don’t have to do everything yourself. Get help with cleaning, cooking, shopping and the rest of the domestic stuff while you take on the much more important job of looking after your loved ones.

Advice courtesy of Bounty. I don’t do many recommendations on here but I would like to recommend Bounty. It’s a great website packed full of information to make being a parent easier.

It starts almost from the moment of conception with information on how to identify signs of pregnancy and goes right through birth right up to raising toddlers.
And if you are a dad and still struggling with baby names it has thousands of ideas to help you choose a name. Even a baby name generator, where you can search by name meaning or origin, or discover the detailed meaning of baby names you like. There’s a host of tools to help you decide, including middle names, sibling names, popular names by region and even celebrity baby names to avoid. And they also a baby names forum where you can share your list of names with other parents.

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