One of my female friends has recently become single after a messy divorce and a recent chat with her made me realise how tricky dating as a single parent can be.
“I think one of the main problems is women tend to get pickier because they have a child, and because they have a child men rule them out. “ says my friend, a single mother with a daughter under 5.
Singles dating can be fun, the freedom of no strings and the excitement of meeting new people but it can also be stressful and soul destroying. And when you are a single parent with children it is just made all the more difficult.
You love your children but a potential partner may not be quite so keen on them.
“It’s difficult to find a woman who can handle a single dad. “ says Rob, a work colleague, bringing up a 3 year old son on his own. “I am worried my close relationship with my children will always leave the woman feeling a little “alone” and, if she’s not an introspective person, her own self esteem will be injured. Most women that I know, seem to think that, in the dating world, they are the queens…so its not easy when the man is focused on other things than just you.”
One of the biggest dilemmas of single parent dating is when to reveal that you are a parent. Do you tell people you have kids straight away or do you wait? Do you conceal their domestic situation until a little way down the line. “It’s not like I am lying, it is just that I am not going to be too specific” says one female friend.
With a family to look after you have less time, so you don’t want to waste it on unsuitable liaisons. Speed dating is one option because it allows you to meet a lot of single people in one go. Or you could try dating online. There are a number of online dating sites that are specifically for single parents.
Just Single Parents for instance is a dating site set up specifically to connect single mums and single dads that want to date. With thousands of members you can find parents to meet, date or simply chat to. They have thousands of single parent members, who are looking for fun, friendship, romance and that special long term relationship.
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